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June 17, 2019
How to Have an Amicable Divorce
Divorce is not always a pleasant situation to be in an most people struggle with their emotions by blaming themselves or their spouse for not keeping the promise of forever. Even though such things may be hard to come to terms with, it is easy to have a divorce that does not have a lot of drama. The things that you can be able to do so that you have an amicable divorce are highlighted below.
One of the things that you need to do after you have had the divorce discussion is figure out your living situation. It is important that before you think of moving out, you figure out how you will keep your sanity as the divorce is going on even before discussing divorce with the kids. Figure out if you need to come up with rules in regarding to sharing the house or if you need to move far away as possible should you not be uncomfortable with the living arrangement.
There are times when you may need space and it is important that you have the freedom to ask for it. During the divorce, you do no have the same obligation you once had for your partner and it is okay to not respond to things like texts immediately. Make sure that you take time to relax and not do things that you would have otherwise done on normal days so that you can be able to process everything.
During the divorce, there is alo the temptation of being petty and this is something that you need to resist. When you are petty, you can easily dishonor the love that you and your partner once shared and it is important that you avoid such urges. When you are petty, you are bound to also leave a negative reputation and this will not look good on you.
Another important thing that you need to do if you are looking to settle divorce amicably is hiring a lawyer. When you hire a lawyer you are sure that your rights are protected and that it is easy for you to get protection from any kind of violations as well. With a lawyer, it will be easy for you to deal with things like financing, custody as well as housing.
Caring for your mental health is important and it is important that you see a therapist as well. When you see a counsellor with your spouse, you can be able to figure out if divorce is the ideal solution. With a therapist, you are sure that you are able to have a third party and you are in a position to be able to express yourself well.
Since you have mutual friends, it is important to know what to say. there are times when you will share with family and friends and it is important to know where to draw the line and keep things private. Ensure that you refrain from things like social media posts especially if you are not going to say anything positive.